Why Can’t You Be Normal Like Me

Jesus knew 2,000 years ago that there would be people who were different, people we don’t get along with, people in the church who have hurt or frustrated us, and different churches down the street. His prayer is that we would be like a body, that despite our different parts, differences, and uniqueness, we would work together in the mission of sharing the gospel to people of all nations, tribes, and tongues.

No Family is Perfect

One of the greatest gifts you can give your kids is their own authentic faith. A faith where they can choose, on their own, how to cling to what is good, how to cling to God when life hammers them, how to hate and turn away from evil, wrong, and what will damage them.

Love and Respect

You are set up for relational success when God is the center of your relationship and the motivation within your relationship. Remember, every relationship in your life takes risks, effort, and authenticity from you. Good Relationships are POSSIBLE, but they’re not PROBABLE. Out of reverence to God and all that he has done for you, as the #1 reflection of God’s love for your spouse, out of love, respect, and sacrifice, submit to one another.

Conflict Resolution

Conflict arises because we don’t have what we want. It is Temporary. The fastest way to change your heart is to pray for the other person. Resolution to your conflict involves softening your heart. It requires an eternal perspective and focusing on the things of Heaven.


When we believe and trust that God loves us and is for us and has created us and provides for us and saves us, our Primal Questions can be used to direct our primal role on earth. Once we feel safe, we feel driven to help others feel safe. When we feel wanted, we want to ensure others feel wanted. When we feel successful, we want to help others succeed. When the questions drive us in our role because we know what God says about us; we move out of codependent relationships.

Huddle Up

When we fall into old temptations, our natural inclination is isolation. We hide our mess. We cover our failure, but when we share the secret, the secret loses its power. Is it a risk to share your vulnerability with someone else? Absolutely. Is it even more risky to keep it hidden and let it grow? Absolutely. But this isn’t about sharing your secrets with just anyone. It’s about trusting people with whom you are in community.